Finding Your North Star in Therapy

Here’s why sometimes therapy can feel like you’re going in circles, or why sometimes it just doesn’t seem to have a lasting impact.

Many therapeutic approaches fall into one of two camps.

On one side, you have more client-led therapy, which can easily become a case of a client coming week after week, talking about their week, telling their stories, and going home. While there can be value in having this type of facility, from a therapeutic perspective progress can feel directionless and frustratingly slow.

On the other side, you have highly structured approaches that follow a rigid protocol. These can miss what’s actually most important for YOU.

In Connected State Therapy, we do something different. In our very first session, we work together to create what I call the Purpose of our work. This will be our ‘North Star’ – a single sentence that captures your core intention. Of course, it may evolve or change as we move through layers.

It might be something like ‘I want to trust myself’ or ‘I want to welcome the parts of me I have rejected’ or ‘I want to love without fear.’ You’ll know we’ve found it because something inside you will resonate.

Then, throughout our work together, we follow your psyche’s natural intelligence by staying responsive to what emerges – your dreams, your memories, what your body tells us, the patterns that surface in your experience.

But we always have that North Star guiding us. It keeps us oriented while allowing the deeper work to unfold naturally.

This offers the best of both worlds – the depth and responsiveness that can create real transformation, with the clarity and direction that actually gets you somewhere.

Instead of just managing symptoms, we’re addressing the causal factors that can give rise to experiences such as depression, anxiety, relationship struggles, or whatever brought you to therapy in the first place.

If you’re curious about this approach, you can read more about Connected State Therapy, or you can book a free discovery call with me.

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